The way we learn to connect follows us.
Our earliest relationships shape what we come to expect from closeness like how safe it feels to depend on someone, what happens when there's conflict, how we express our needs, and what we believe we have to do to be loved.
Those patterns don't end when we grow up. They can follow us into friendships, family relationships, and especially romantic relationships.
Maybe you find yourself worrying about where you stand with someone. Pulling away when things get too close. Choosing partners who feel strangely familiar. Avoiding conflict until resentment builds. Taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions. Or wondering why the same relationship dynamics seem to keep finding you.
Therapy can help you understand the patterns you've developed, where they may have come from, and what you want your relationships to look like moving forward.
I provide attachment-focused individual therapy for adults navigating family-of-origin experiences, romantic relationships, and the complicated space between the two.
What We Work On
Understand Your Patterns
Instead of asking, “What's wrong with me?” we get curious about what your responses are trying to accomplish.
Together, we look at how you experience closeness, conflict, rejection, vulnerability, independence, and emotional safety and the patterns that tend to emerge when relationships matter most.
Understand Where They Came From
Our relationships don't develop in a vacuum.
Family roles, early attachment experiences, past relationships, trauma, loss, and the ways you've learned to protect yourself can all influence how you connect with people today.
Understanding those influences isn't about assigning blame. It's about making your patterns understandable so they no longer have to run automatically.
Create Relationships That Fit Who You Are Now
Insight matters, but therapy doesn't stop there.
Using attachment-based therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), we'll work toward relationships where you can communicate more openly, tolerate vulnerability, maintain a sense of yourself, and make choices based on what matters to you and not simply what feels familiar or safest in the moment.
"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."
— Alice Walker